There are many different crisis that a family could go through and some cope with them differently.
A family could have a financial crisis where one of the parents are unemployed. There could be illness or death in a family. Divorce is a family crisis. They can have positive or negative effects on the family, or even both. Each situation and each individual can deal and cope with the crisis differently. When there is death in a family, it brings some families closer and strengthens their bonds with one another as they heal each other and try to fill up the hole from their lost loved one. For other families, they blame each other and shut each other out refusing to give or accept comfort making the hole made turn into a trench. The other members of the family grow apart more and more over time.
With divorce it could be good if it ended a terrible marriage where there was any kind of abuse involved, then that is usually better off for everyone. However, divorce can end up tearing a family apart and ruin relationships within the family that used to be great. My husband's family has never been the same since his parents' divorce and all of his used to be fantastic and close relationships with his mother and siblings have deteriorated. They used to be so close and get along very well, but his siblings now don't know how to get along with each other anymore.
A financial crisis can help a family become closer by getting together and doing what they can to make it by, but it could also result in many siblings getting jobs and spending less time with their family. As you can see, the outcome of a family crisis completely depends on how the members of the family cope with it. A crisis can bring a family closer or tear them apart. If we can keep this in mind, we can hopefully avoid a crisis negatively impacting our families and let them strengthen us.
Good post, family stress and coping is such an interesting topic! In regards to infidelity, what are some the the most common ways people begin to begin to be unfaithful to their spouse? I know from personal experience that infidelity is an extremely heavy burden. I witnessed my mother grieve over my fathers choices to abandon covenants and live another life with another woman. This was tragic yet so were his initial decisions to put gaining prestige in the medical field above my mother and siblings. In my opinion, my father was unfaithful the moment he began to care more about his position in the medical field and material possessions than his family and covenants. How can we best "affair proof" our marriages? I like that you mentioned the potential opportunities for growth through great familial stress and crisis. What are some potential opportunities when there is infidelity in a marriage?
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